Life comes with ups and downs, and intense happy moments and problems, a fact that we are all aware of. No one can coach people to cope with problems, but having the right perspective can make a huge difference.
“None of us can be free of conflict and woe. Even the greatest men have had to accept disappointments as their daily bread.” So beautifully has Bernard Baruch stated the reality of life! I have always believed that “A life without problems, is a life incomplete”. Wouldn’t life be like a mundane meal with the same menu, day in and day out, in the absence of problems? Pardon me for my food-related metaphor, but its stands true, doesn’t it? Well, just like problems are inevitable in life, the phenomenon of dealing with them yourself is also an eternal truth. As individuals, we should all know how to deal with problems, in our own unique way.
I cannot really give a universal formula for solving problems in life, but I can, for sure, help you see things in the right perspective.
Various Perspectives of Problems and How to Deal With them
Face Your Problems
As Charles Kettering very rightly said, “A problem well stated, is a problem half solved”. It is very important to address the problem. For that, it is essential to state it correctly. Often, people find their problems magnifying because they were to scared to state the problem frankly. Either they kept mum about it all together, or they made it look lesser than it was.
In both cases, it will be very difficult for you to deal with problems, if you don’t agree to admit to it in the first place! Shying away from admitting the problem will only make the solution shy away from you. However, facing it will help the solution face you. Always remember, the only way to solve a problem, is through it, not around it.
Find Every Possible Solution
When wondering how to handle problems at work, we often get caught up in focusing, a tad too much, on the problem. It is normal human psychology. Yes, I know I have said that you need to state the problem, but you need to work on addressing it as well. While looking at the problem, one needs to keep in mind that problems, indeed, exist to be solved. And, it is only if you think of the problem as a cause for a solution, will you be able to reach that goal. Problems come with the seeds of their solutions within them. Just look out for the solution and you will find it; look only at the problem, and the solution will stay hidden forever.
Problems in relationships are inevitable. In fact, I am of the opinion that a relationship without any problems is a farce. Then, that is your problem. Don’t be confused. When in a relationship, you need to know that the only solution that will help you surmount all problems is communication. You need to be open when communicating in a relationship, especially during a problem. It is the same when attempting at dealing with family problems. You need to realize that it is only by talking out the issues, that any solution can be found. Hiding leads to more hiding. Always remember that!
I do realize that no problem can ever seem small. They all have their short-term and long-term repercussions. Nonetheless, one needs to know that, “Concentrating on the pile of dirt will not clean it, but cleaning the pile of dirt will actually clean it.” So, start contemplating the solution, not the problem. In the end, remember, ‘If the problem cannot be solved, manage it!’ This is where I sign off! All the best!