"Never apologize for being sensitive or emotional. Let this be a sign that you've got a big heart and aren't afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength."
― Brigitte Nicole
― Brigitte Nicole
Every relationship has survived on apologies; after all, we are humans and take stupid decisions and do dumb things which irks the other person. Humans are flawed creatures, even though we try to master things and pursue perfection, mistakes are going to occur from time to time. Given the circumstances, it may not be anybody's fault, but in the end, it does not matter.
Pointing fingers at somebody or accusing somebody won't do any good to your relationship. Many times, you accept your mistake, clearly when it's not yours, because you care more about the relationship than the argument. Of course it's necessary to use the S-word when you say something wrong or probably forget to pick up your son after work. But many of us are frequently saying sorry for things that have happened for no fault of ours. So keeping this in mind, we have put together a list of things you should never say sorry for.
Don't Say Sorry For
Your Form of Self-expression
Our life is a roller-coaster ride, and you are bound to experience many ups and downs. Everybody has a way of removing or expressing their pent-up frustration. Whether it's writing a daily blog, playing the guitar or any musical instrument, or maybe talking a walk alone. You should never ever say sorry for expressing your emotions.
Everybody has unique traits in them. Not everybody will have the same taste in music or would like to go bungee-jumping. You have your personal opinions, beliefs, thoughts, hobbies, etc. You don't need to apologize for that. If you like heavy metal, so be it, don't say sorry for being you, indirectly it means apologizing for your beliefs, desires, and thoughts.
A Guys Night Out
Just like how girls love spending time with their girlfriends, shopping or gossiping. Similarly, guys like to blow off some steam by getting together and doing their thing. A guys night out is an awesome way to remind themselves that there is more to life than their girlfriend or family.
As mentioned earlier, we all make mistakes. Your past might contain some mistakes which you are not proud of. You need to let go, because it's your life and that was your decision. Feeling guilty or giving justifications to people will only stop you from moving on. You gained some experience and won't commit that mistake again. This should not be one of the things you need to apologize for.
Your likes and the type of people you like is not other people's business. Be proud of the person you are in love with, celebrate the love which you have for this person. Even if the guy or girl is chubby, skinny, dumb, or intelligent, it does not matter because you love them.
There are many moments in life where we say no to maybe a coworker, friend, parent, etc. Over-burdening yourself with many party invitations, workload, or doing any illegal activity will definitely take a toll on your life. If you don't wish to do a certain thing, never hesitate or feel sorry after rejecting that offer.
What Makes You Happy
Always be unapologetic for what makes you happy. Whether it is taking a stroll in the park, curling up on the bed with a book, or watching funny baby videos. Your happiness depends on you and not on somebody else. So if anything in particular tickles your funny bone or makes you happy, go do it.
Earning More Money
You should never feel sorry for being successful. If you earn more money than your partner, that does not mean your partner is not good enough. It simply means that you are capable of earning more money, simply because you are perhaps more qualified/deserving/lucky than your spouse.
Don't feel bad about not lying, honesty is important in every relationship. You are or were being honest to somebody because you care about them. Suppose if your friend does not look good in a particular dress, feel free to be honest with him/her. If he calls you mean or whatever, that means he was not ready to hear the truth.
Taking Me Time
Let's all agree we need some alone time to figure out our life. Or many people prefer to be alone after a long day, just to go through their day and think of times they are grateful for. Sometimes, besides listening to people, we need to relax and listen to our own thoughts.
Letting Go of People
They can be anybody, your exes, best friends, or maybe somebody from your family, if they are toxic and you get a negative vibe, then let go of these people. It's your decision whom to keep and remove from your life.
Challenging the Norm
You maybe slightly overweight or way too skinny, or your whole body is covered with tattoos or piercings. Don't apologize for the way you dress up or for your body shape. If somebody likes you for your looks or expects you to have a model-like figure, then they need to Photoshop their mind.
So do you over-apologize? Sometimes, apologizing can be good, but over-apologizing for things that are not your fault can make your partner or other person take you for granted. Kill this habit before it gets worse.