Confidence is a highly sensitive trait. As much time it takes to build confidence, that little time it takes to lose it. It can shatter very easily, unless you have more faith in yourself than you could imagine; a quality extremely rare. In a world that is so competitive, it is easy to feel lesser than those around us in all respects.
Everyone's achievements are an effort to prove their worth to others rather than keep themselves happy. Some of you may disagree with this, but for most, it is a fact that is rarely admitted. In such cases, losing confidence is very easy and common too.
However, we also know that there is no room for lack of confidence in this world. We try to portray a strong exterior, but somewhere the low confidence levels find their way out.
Whether it is the loss of a job, a break up, or a failure at school, the shattered confidence can be picked up and rebuilt, only if you are willing to do so. It is going to take time and a lot of efforts, before you begin to feel at your best again. Yes, regaining confidence is possible, and here's how.
These periods are perhaps the worst, where it is difficult to have faith in yourself, let alone the others around you. Now, you may find it a little difficult to accept that you are suffering from insecurities and low confidence levels. However, once you do, it will be easier to follow certain steps to regain your confidence.
Why Did You Lose Confidence in the First Place?
A small review of what went wrong can go a long way in helping you regain your lost confidence. What was it that has led to this situation? Was it a bit of overconfidence? Was it a job that was better done by someone else? Was it the fact that you were turned down for someone else in a relationship?
Or is it just a phase where you are facing a major transition in your life, and are losing trust in yourself? Whatever the case, whether it is regaining confidence after a divorce or a break up, or any other situation, you have to think things through, and eventually move on.
As clichéd as it sounds, it is a fact that you have to face. Perhaps defining a trail of events that are responsible for your current problem may help you move ahead.
When everything seems like a problem, start by tackling the smaller ones. If it is a job you have lost, start by doing small things that make you feel more capable.
A dance class, a pottery class, or a class where you learn how to prepare various delicacies, will have you feel much better about yourself. Everyone else around you will also be able to sense the difference in your demeanor and your attitude.
At least until you are trying to get back to being the person you were, avoid spending time with people who themselves don't have any faith in their abilities, are depressed, or are going through a bad phase. This will not help, and is likely to pull you down further.
Regaining confidence is like a path to self-discovery. If this is how you treat it, there is no way you can find yourself feeling low or incompetent. Remember, you are as good as anyone else.
As long as you are able to accept your shortcomings and enhance your capabilities, no one can make you feel terrible about yourself. Keep this in mind, and you are bound to emerge a confident human being.