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How to Deal with Anger Issues

Hemangi Harankhedkar Nov 28, 2018
We all have our own ways of expressing anger, some of us keep it bottled up, whereas some of us are very vocal in showing our displeasure. Anger needs to be addressed when the reason for it is a trivial issue. Here is an information about dealing with anger in a positive way.
"Every time you get angry, you poison your own system." ~ Alfred A. Montapert
Anger is both, a healthy and an unhealthy emotion. We should not keep it within us for a long time, and we should also not let it go overboard and take control of us. If gone out of control, it wreaks havoc on our body and mind, and also disturbs our normal routine.
Anger is a way of expressing annoyance and displeasure, and each person has his/her own way of showing displeasure. Some of us get angry at the slightest provocation, while others are brave enough to take things in stride. Physically, anger can lead to problems with blood pressure, digestion, immune system, and circulatory system.
Getting angry frequently can cause depression in the person, and can also give rise to suicidal tendency. To control anger and depression, many people take to addictions like alcohol and drugs, which in turn leads to fatal health ailments, and may even give rise to suicidal tendency in the person.

Dealing with Anger Issues

Anger has no specific reason. An ugly fight with spouse or neighbor, things not done our way, stress due to a tiring job, annoying people, can all make us angry and feel bitter about life. On some occasions, anger goes beyond our control, and we overreact, verbally or by doing some physical harm. Each one of us has gone through this, right?
If things are going beyond your control and you are throwing things around the house everyday for silly reasons, now is the right time for you to learn anger management. Here are a few tips that will help you.
Patience is the key to all anger problems. If something is not going the way you had planned, don't get angry and overreact. Just be patient and calm about the situation. Allow things to settle with time, and always remember that time has the ability to heal everything.
Patience also gives the strength and courage to face any situation, so practice being patient in any situation, and the anger would automatically ward off with time.
►When you are in the state of anger, before reacting, just sit quietly, close your eyes and start breathing deeply. Concentrate on your breathing pattern and think about the good things in life.
Eventually, you will forget the reason for your anger. Meditation and yoga have many good techniques to make you feel happy and good about yourself.
►No matter how tough the situation is, smile! A smile has proven to have a positive effect on the mind and soul, and it energizes the mind. Rather than brooding over the situation and thinking negative, you should stay calm and positive.
►Before anger engulfs you in its vicious web, just escape and engage yourself in some activity. You can spend some quality time with people you like. This strategy drifts you away from the situation and makes you feel better.
Else, you can also watch your favorite movie or sports match. The main idea is to take your focus away from the situation that had angered you.
Communicate your problem with a friend or someone close to you. When you share your thoughts with someone, you feel light and relieved. Self talk is also very beneficial in controlling anger. Ask yourself to stay calm and quiet. Who knows what is harmful for you than you yourself?
►If nothing's working, try the old-tested formula of counting numbers. It will shift your focus from the actual thing, and lots of people have actually benefited through this exercise.

Dealing with Anger Issues in Children

A fight with a best friend, a school punishment, an encounter with a bully classmate, or low self-esteem, all can make children depressed and short-tempered. Parents and teachers play an important role in managing anger in children.
Some noticeable symptoms of anger in children are repulsive behavior, increased heart rate, and in some children the face may turn reddish. What parents and teachers need to learn are some techniques to control anger, which are presented here.
► First thing to be remembered by parents is that, they should check their own behavior when children are around. This is because children learn from their parents and try to imitate them. If the behavior of parents is not proper, children would learn the same things.
► You should make it a point to teach children the importance of qualities like love, forgiveness and brotherhood. This helps a child in dealing with his friends and classmates.
► Make it a point that you do not scold your wards, especially when their friends are around. Be polite in your behavior towards children. This is very important for the self-esteem of the child. The child might get angry if he is not happy with his self and his image.
► Narrate good stories to your kids in the night. This helps in imbibing moral values and good habits in the kids. These values indirectly help children in controlling their anger.
► Sometimes, actions are necessary to convey love. A simple hug works wonders and makes the child feel that he is being loved. On many occasions, it was found that lack of attention from the parents was the reason behind the growing anger in the kid.
► If your child is not a team player and always gets angry with other kids while playing, make him or her join activity class that he loves. This way, the child will bond with other children who have similar interests.
Anger is an emotion which should not be kept hidden in the mind and also it should not go overboard in its expression. Remember, life is beautiful and you have to fill it with beautiful moments, and anger is a curse which kills your precious time. Keep smiling!