"Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve." - Napoleon Hill
The thought above is the seed that you require to get your confidence back again. With confidence, everything's possible and without it, almost everything seems impossible. What do you do, when confidence eludes you? How to regain your confidence back again? How to regain your self belief? How to get your flow back again? These are the questions, which I try to answer, in this article.
Every once in a while, unforeseen circumstances throw our life into total chaos and the most precious of all ingredients, which is confidence, eludes us. You hit the rock bottom of your life. The once roaring river of confidence is down to a trickle and you become a shadow of your true self. Every one of us may go through such phases of depression. Still, how much ever life hits you hard, you can claw back every inch and get your confidence back. How do you do that? It may be the simplest and most difficult thing, depending on your attitude. The very fact that you are willing to take efforts, is half the battle won.
How to Regain Your Confidence
What is confidence really? It is another name for self belief and complete trust in your abilities. So, the question about being confident is in actuality, a question about how to believe in yourself again. Here are some tips.
Empty Your Cup of Negativity
The reason why you are running low on confidence is that you have let your mind fill with negativity of all kinds. You have let others make you feel that you are no good. You have started worrying a lot more about what others think, than what you think. Let me tell you the truth. None of it, is true. You are, what you see yourself to be and not what others think you are.
Let go of all the negativity and think with an open mind. Silence all the 'Naysayers' in your mind. You are the only 'you' on Earth. You are unique and special, with your own set of skills and gifts. You have the right to have your own set of opinions and beliefs about things. You are free. Listen to your own mind and your own original ideas, rather than trashing them away.
Let Go of the Past
Most people lose confidence because of past failures that weigh down on their minds. They let the past ruin their present. Moving ahead in life, while thinking of the past, is like swimming with lead weights. Past is history. A failure is supposed to challenge you to succeed. Investigate what were the mistakes that led you to failure and don't repeat them again. Nobody is perfect. It is human to make mistakes. Break the pattern of negative thought and back yourself. Winning is all about learning from your failures and turning your weaknesses into your strengths.
Practice and Prepare Yourself
Preparation and practice will give you confidence. What gives great athletes and sportsmen their confidence, is the efforts they put in, while practicing their skills. When you are thoroughly prepared for a challenge, confidence will automatically develop. From such small victories, confidence grows slowly and surely. Practice and preparation are the keys.
Love, Respect, Trust Yourself
Love and respect yourself for what you are and where you come from. Whom can you ever trust and who will ever trust you, if you do not trust yourself? Have unshakeable trust in your own self and your own principles. Confidence will grow out of it naturally. A confident you is the one who keeps his or her cool and believes in the power of positive thinking.
Build Confidence From Small Victories
Celebrate every little self-improvement and every small personal victory. Take up the confidence that is built from every little task achieved and it will go on building itself up. Take every failure as an opportunity to learn. Through challenging your limits to achieve greater heights, your confidence will be restored.
Approach Life With a Smile
Be positive and approach life with a smile on your face, rather than a frown. Don't think too much and go with the flow that you feel developing within you. Start trusting your instincts and they will always lead you into the right direction. Help people out and be gracious. This will automatically boost your self-esteem and confidence.
Only you can be your savior and no one else. Remember that getting your confidence back is eliminating self-doubt, cynicism, and negativity that tries to trap you. Let the light of positive thoughts, self belief and pure unadulterated laughter shine upon all these hobgoblins and they will disappear.
Just close your eyes and say this in your mind - 'Nothing is Impossible'. That's the mantra, which you need to remember, all the time. Say it like you mean every word of it. Repeat it until you feel the adrenaline rush and your confidence coursing and flooding back into you. Remember, life is full of possibilities waiting to unfold and the key to gaining your confidence back, is believing in yourself, 100%. Let go of all your self-imposed limitations and unleash yourself.